It totally came to my mind after reading Rob’s post on biding his colleague a final goodbye and how music connected them. Goodbyes are bad for one and all, they are painful, and they take a part of you away from yourself. This is something to ponder about. And what if you have to bid adieu to someone you would never see again. This is often the sad side of meeting new people.
Back during my graduation days I had to bid a final goodbye to my best friend from America. It was a depressing feeling and I was despairing at the looming loneliness for months to come thinking about what lies ahead. That is the main reason I avoid getting very close to people. Those “Keep in touch” are not enough and with the time their sustainability often decreases with time. I met few new people at a wedding recently and got close to one and then it was the time for a goodbye. This is the reason I shed more tears than adventures while meeting new people. When you have to say goodbye to the amazing people you meet along your journey, and it’s a day that always seems to come too soon, trust me! I hate that feeling.
It’s often incredible how quickly you build a bond with people you meet along in your journey. There is often something connecting two individuals. Like Rob and his colleague had music, I and my graduation friend had our similar way of living and thinking out of the box, with a recent new friend it was curiosity bonding us. To get along with them so well that you choose to be with them for a while is something rare and amazing. Of course there is always Skype, Facebook, or good old e-mail to keep in touch, but it’s never the same. Hence, how bitter goodbyes truly are. I have come to a conclusion that we Indians are more emotional than the rest of the world coz’ whenever I bid a goodbye, at times I have noticed that only I feel bad and not the other person. They all seem to be too cool with it. It was a lump in my throat, the sting of tears in my eyes being wiped by a friend who accompanied, and a very real ache in my heart when I gave that final hug and wish that person safe travels
Will I ever manage to see that American guy from New York again? That Spanish girl from Madrid and the curious special boy from Germany? Will our paths cross somewhere down the road?
I recently had a fight with a friend from a part of Europe. We were so much connected and a little seed of misunderstanding and bitter arguments resulted into the end of a beautiful friendship. Probably I decided to end it all this time coz’ it was getting worse with time. There are different types of goodbyes and all are equally painful. The worst goodbye was the one that left such a strong impact on me that I am archiving the entire thing in my next book. All the real time conversations and events.