So i will start with this apt sentence
“Society has killed more dreams than anything else in the world”
A girl has to pay price for being a girl and sometimes the prices are much higher. Few days back I was reading a book regarding “how to let go of our inhibitions and how to be not afraid of showing out the flaws”. A women is often defined by other’s standards. To be beautiful you need to comply to a male beauty standard which comes with certain criteria like make up ON 24/7, Need to be as thin as a stick, comb your hair all the time even if you don’t wish to, be conscious about your looks every single minute, deal with nasty people with only one thing in mind!! Yes that is how difficult it is to be a girl. Girls are being judged often more than anyone else on this planet.
When girls are promoted in their workplace, the world assumes it to be her charm and beauty which got her there. It is all considered as tokenism towards promotions. We are never qualified and we never worked hard to deserve the promotions, but instead, it was our beauty who got us there. When we apply for a job we are sure to perform our duties and we trust our capabilities but men don’t, they will be more likely to talk their way into a role that they THINK they can handle
We need to look best all the time, stuff ourselves under those wires, fitted bits, clasps and scratchy laces while we get dressed. We need to look flattering and have visible lines, it’s much tougher than it actually sounds. And all this happens even before we choose what to wear!!!!
Yes we are in-secured, insecurity is a synonym for women but what makes us like that!! We are so damn riddled with our complex body issues that we are actually viciously unrelenting our own judgments for another women. This actually makes us harsh on ourselves too. We go to our workplace without make-up for just one day and there would be some head popping out “Are you feeling ok?”,without make-up we look crap. In you think it’s not true, try not wearing lipstick for just one day or done shave your armpits for a week…… The pressure that we have to groom and get beautified is incredible.
Most of the gentleman’s out there would be working for 38 hrs/week. But a women, she has to work 24/7 each passing day. We run between our workplaces and households. Support the partner, care for our babies, meet family and friends, try build a career……and look best all the time….phew!! This is just too much of a work. We have no post work couch lounge for us, we have dinner to make, ironing, help our babies with homework and the list goes on. Work balance is a myth, must be created by some male consultant. We have a life of servitude.
It’s really hard to get respect if you have breasts. Our hormones run wild all the time. We get weaknesses, we are tired but we have no time to relax. Tears are our best friend and they often flow like a wine at the wedding reception. Our life is a mold and we need to fit inside properly. How can I forget Periods? Getting cramps, bloating, being pissy, breaking out, this is what we have go through every month. Yes, our life is drama drama drama!!! And boyfriend troubles, and worrying about getting pregnant, we indeed get judged more. Our friends judge us, our husbands judge us. It’s a bad bad world for being a women.